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Originally Posted by trying2survive
it sounds like you are telling the wrong people things you don't want told!
i would suggest bringing personal issues up here only for awhile till you find someone you can really trust in person to stop spilling the beans IMHO
hope this helps
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Hi! Yes - I do have a hard time knowing when to trust someone and when not to trust someone... how can you know when you can when you can't? The two people that I had an issue with were my closest and best friends unfortunately... and they are the healthiest relationships I've ever had.
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Originally Posted by trying2survive
So if I understand this correctly, you had a problem with a supervisor, as did a few other people, and now someone else entirely wants to write a letter of complaint on behalf of all of you?
I agree with the poster above. This is them, not you. I've run into situations like that before and there seems to be a sort of 'type' that does that kind of thing. I would try to figure out how you can identify those types and maybe keep them a bit distant.
It could also be that you are giving off an air of someone who needs to be rescued because you are scared/shy/fill in the blank, but I really think this has more to do with the people you are surrounding yourself with. I hope they just drop the letter.
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You understand it correctly! I'm glad to know that I'm not the only one that has been in this situation before... is there a way to label this 'type'? Is it some Cluster B personality trait (Borderline, Narcissistic, etc)? I'm going to look for commonalities in these different 'types' and commonalities that I've done in relationships with them - and hopefully will develop some insight into what is going on.