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Originally Posted by AnxiousOne43
I agree, I think therapy would be great for us. And we did do a few sessions together after I told her about the first episode that happened 17 years ago.
How do I ask her about couples therapy?
Because right now she said that she just does not want to talk about anything related to my manic episode or my bipolar in general. She said she just wants to move forward.
Should I wait and just approach her with it at a later date?
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I would tell her that you know she wants to just put what happened in the past but in order to move forward and make the changes she needs (giving her more attention, etc) you would like to attend couples therapy.
In addition, I agree with the other poster that said 2 therapies. You need your OWN therapist as well to get you through this. Tell your wife you will work with your own therapist on your issues and deal with what happened so maybe that will help reassure her you aren't trying to drag her to marriage counseling to talk about something she doesn't want to. Emphasize the marriage counseling is to work on making changes from this point forward to make your marriage work, not to hash out the past.
Good luck!