So my boyfriend sent me a 7 text long rant explaining that I am getting too close to his best friend an I need to back off because he is his best friend, however over the past month the best friend has been living on my boyfriends couch thus spending time with me and my boyfriend a lot. It is only natural that me and his best friend become friends and hang out together. I asked the best friend to help me put up some flyers because my boyfriend was busy and that made my boyfriend really upset. I understand it makes him uncomfortable that his best friend and girlfriend are hanging out but I know my boyfriend has a tendency to be an over reactive and controlling person. I am trying not to be reactive to him but I need to learn how to stand up to him without feeling guilty. I don't think its fair personally for someone else to tell you that you cannot spend time with someone. i think it is him just being insecure. I am tired of being a little timid girlfriend that does whatever my alcoholic boyfriend says I should do but I don't want to explode into an argument. I am so tired of this... we are already in a rough patch because he recently relapsed and reading over this it sounds bad. i really don't know what to do. empathy and relating with someone would really help right now.