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Originally Posted by Akama
What do you mean with "attachment is one sided, child/immature love"?
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That is meant to distinguish attachment vs. adult relationship. There is a concept of adult attachment, but generally, I think attachment is often referred to in the context of how it's described here:
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Clarification of definitions
Attachment is a frequently used term in the field of relationships. As we learn more about this subject, controversies continue to emerge and some common misconceptions remain. Health professionals can benefit from knowing more about the historical evolution of the concept of attachment. They can also benefit from a survey of terminology used in the vast literature related to the topic and a review of current research on different aspects of this familiar but complex subject.
Parents may approach physicians and other health professionals with questions and concerns related to “attachment.” Despite an abundance of information on attachment, there is often confusion surrounding the term. What is the meaning of attachment and what do we really know about attachment and its relationship to mental health?
An attachment relationship is enduring and biologically based. Important points include the following:
• Attachment is a reciprocal but unequal relationship.
• The infant seeks proximity to the maternal figure, who is supposed to be wiser and more capable, providing protection and “felt security.”[16]
• The relationship is unequal in that the mother should not be expected to seek protection or comforting from her infant; unfortunately, the latter is seen in disturbed attachment scenarios.
The terms attachment and bonding are sometimes used interchangeably to indicate either the parent’s emotional tie to the infant or the infant’s to the parent. Their respective meanings are, however, different. An infant is attached to his or her parent, whereas parents are described as bonded to their infants.
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http://www.bcmj.org/article/attachme...l-perspectives
So, it's much like the therapist-client relationship rather than a mutual, adult relationship. We are a diverse group, so people here might use the term in different ways that I would.
I hope this helps clarify things.