I definitely relate to wanting to get some kind of specific reaction from my T. Realizing that made me see how I look for specific reactions from other people in my life. I expect my spouse to praise me for doing some horrid household chore, my children to love me for doing something nice for them, my friends to think x,y,z about me when I say or do whatever I'm saying or doing. Even here on PC, I find I can be disappointed when I don't get the reaction that I want.

Now I work on not needing people to give me certain reactions, or to be aware of how my need for a reaction can have a negative impact on the other person or the relationship. My T says it's a boundary thing-- that when we allow other people to have their boundaries, we don't need them to react to us in specific ways. I'm not sure it's just that simple, but it feels true that is at least a piece of it.