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Originally Posted by MichG1263
Hello everyone,
I really don't know what to think of this situation.
The people involved aren't young; I'm 50 and the man involved is 52.
I met John online in May 2013. He lived and hour and a half away. We hit it off right away, and for a few weeks e-mailed and texted multiple times a day. However, do to my insecurity, I walked away three times.
In April of this year, I contacted him again through Yahoo Messenger. I didn't want anything and had no expectations. Sincerely I didn't.
During our chat, he asked me if I wanted to try again. I was surprised. All the times I broke up with him I wasn't nice. I told him we could be friends and see where things would go.
Long story short, we ended up 'falling in love' about a month into our reunion. I had always had deep feelings for him, but never told him. And he said it first.
He never asked me for anything, never money, nothing.
This is the problem; everytime we made plans to meet, and it was only twice, he had a meeting at work he was required to attend. After the second one, only a week ago, I broke it off again.
I'm sure these were just lies. What bothers me, if he wasn't serious with me, why did tell me his deepest secret? He's bisexual.
And why when he sensed I was getting ready to walk again again did he work so hard to reassure me? I am very, very insecure, and I was slowly beginning to trust him.
Why? What was this? I don't understand. I'm hurt and confused. I've read the he might be a sociaopath and/or a narcissist.
Any opinions or insight would be great appreciated.
Thanks.
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To be honest...and I'm sorry to say this, and I hope I'm not too harsh...but I think your jump to the conclusion that he was a catfish was to make you feel better because you ...blew it.
You're insecure...you've made that clear. You met him in May of LAST YEAR and he's never asked you for money...you've only tried to meet twice....I'm sorry. I don't see anything in what you've said about your relationship that says catfish and just because you tried to meet twice and something came up, does not mean he was lying...and what IS that????? 'I'm sure these were just lies'????? why are you sure????
He tells you he's bisexual, (which is no small thing to share with someone, especially if you have feelings for them) but you're 'SURE' that his reason for missing the get together (meetings for work) was a lie???? Really???
C'mon! I'd suggest calling him and apologizing profusely, but honestly....you've burned him so many times, I don't think you've got a chance anymore. You would'nt have with me. Only so many times a person gets kicked before they give up.
I really am sorry this didn't work out. If there is something to be learned, perhaps it is to find out a little more about a person before concluding they are out to hurt or use you. In his case, perhaps he should have done so as well, for while I don't think you used him at all....he probably does feel hurt.
Again, I'm sorry if this sounds harsh. I'm just disappointed for both of you.