
Jun 21, 2014, 04:49 PM
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Originally Posted by MichG1263
Hello everyone,
I really don't know what to think of this situation.
The people involved aren't young; I'm 50 and the man involved is 52.
I met John online in May 2013. He lived and hour and a half away. We hit it off right away, and for a few weeks e-mailed and texted multiple times a day. However, do to my insecurity, I walked away three times.
In April of this year, I contacted him again through Yahoo Messenger. I didn't want anything and had no expectations. Sincerely I didn't.
During our chat, he asked me if I wanted to try again. I was surprised. All the times I broke up with him I wasn't nice. I told him we could be friends and see where things would go.
Long story short, we ended up 'falling in love' about a month into our reunion. I had always had deep feelings for him, but never told him. And he said it first.
He never asked me for anything, never money, nothing.
This is the problem; everytime we made plans to meet, and it was only twice, he had a meeting at work he was required to attend. After the second one, only a week ago, I broke it off again.
I'm sure these were just lies. What bothers me, if he wasn't serious with me, why did tell me his deepest secret? He's bisexual.
And why when he sensed I was getting ready to walk again again did he work so hard to reassure me? I am very, very insecure, and I was slowly beginning to trust him.
Why? What was this? I don't understand. I'm hurt and confused. I've read the he might be a sociaopath and/or a narcissist.
Any opinions or insight would be great appreciated.
Thanks.
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Hello MichG1263,
Could I ask why you think he is a sociopath or narcissist as there is nothing that you have written above that would indicate such a thing. He sounds to me like a genuine person, he could not meet with you the two times you asked because he was working. Sounds like a legitimate thing to happen. He has not asked you for money or anything else and when you were ready to walk, he worked hard to reassure you, can you explain why you feel he is not genuine? If you decide to get back together, I would suggest that you ask for a photograph and talk on the telephone/skype as the internet can make people feel insecure for obvious reasons. Welcome to Psych Central!
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