NZgirl,

I should have been a little more specific....my husband is both my best friend and lover. We have a (sometimes very) physical relationship. Granted, it's easier for us because all of our children are grown, so it's easier to find the time...

It seems you are both under an enormous amount of stress which I'm assuming is causing your exhaustion. Some men consider sex to be a 'stress reliever'. I'm sorry that you don't have professionals available to you that could help. Is what your husband say about you true? If you are unwilling to talk or respond in depth to anything he has to say, then maybe you could ask him what it is he would like for you to do differently. Sometimes couples assume things about each other and it can be amazing to hear their response if we just ask what the other is really feeling.

WW