Hi Oiseau,
Hello and welcome to PC!
You are capable of meeting your goals without your husband. Never let another person, stop you from doing what you want. Make a list and start on those goals, one step at a time. Right know, you need to do what's best for you!
I've had people in my life who would tell me "you'll never be able to accomplish that". For me, I take that as a challenge and show them I can do anything I set my mind to.
The results have been amazing, all because I worked very hard at it and I know you can do this too. Sure, I stumbled and fell along the way, but I never gave up on my dreams.
Stop waiting for your husband to help you, start doing things now and be the person you want to be!