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Originally Posted by Pittymom
My husband and I have barely been married a yr and a half and just can't trust him. We have had a couple run ins with infidelity early on in our marriage, and I've tried and tried to trust him again, but I can't. I cannot forget the Horrid thing he did and the conversations I've seen between him and other women. No matter how many times he apologizes, how much he swears to me he is 100% faithful to me now and will never hurt me again, or how good some days are. I just can't bring myself to forgive and move on. I do love him with everything In me and I know he loves me., but I can't take getting hurt again. He's so clever and has so many opportunities everyday to be unfaithful, but swears he doesn't. I know there is no way for me to know what's in his mind- whether or not he's telling the truth- besides using my instincts. My instincts tell me he's a liar and always will be, but should I listen to the words he tells me? Should I focus on moving on in our relationship and building a better future or should I heed my gut's warning and end it? Either way- HOW???? Please help me/us.
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Is couples counselling a possibility? If he wants to help you believe him and wants the two of you together, then I would suggest it. It certainly can't do any more damage than he has evidently done to your self-esteem. At the end of the day, of course, it has to be up to BOTH of you to want to save your marriage.
Take care...