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Originally Posted by Silentme
funny thing though, I've been telling him that I want a divorce. That him and are no good together and are just making matter's worse and it's bad for our kids to see us like this. But he wouldn't listen. Finally just this past monday he caved in because he's so upset with me and said yes that he will divorce me but that he's not moving out just yet, that in 3 months he moves out because he just doesn't want to leave me stranded with all the bills. he knows I can't afford the new apartment we are in by my self so according to him he's trying to help me out.
But it's more like torture, cause we argue and fight just about every night over the same problem over and over and over. he's totally obsessed over this.. check's all my emails constantly. he's an IT tech very smart so is able to see at what time I log in to my personal emails at work & how many times and from where and constantly monitors now everything I do. He even grabbed the old phone i had been using that i had deleted everything off of and brought everything back and has it saved on my computer.
he's paying for on line tracking services to locate phone numbers of people i've called and has done a whole research & back ground on all the phone numbers and even tells me the paterns of my calls.
How he's gone as far as saving all my pictures on his computer and staring at them all day so he can remind him self what a lair i am and hypocrite and ***** I am so can hate me more.. and leave me. He's constanly reading all my text , the old ones and looking at all my picture and even deleted all my pictures off of my phone and emails & saved them to his computer so now I can't even access my own pictures..
it's just nuts.. I know he won't m;ove out and this whole 3 month thing is just him trying to just drive me more nuts than i already am.. but I can't leave that apartment, i have no money & no family around to help. Plus now my daughter is sick and she needs both of us and this stress is not helping her.. ugh.. see totally stuck... 
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I'm so sorry you're going thru this and yes, he sounds like he is totally irrational. If he has agreed to divorce you he has NO RIGHT to your phone, emails...any of that. However, the way he is now, confronting him might be physically dangerous to you.
However, it sounds like emotionally he's just as dangerous. Is there a way you could go to a shelter for awhile...just to be away from him? It concerns me that he might completely lose it (seems to be ramping up his efforts to completely obliterate any loving feeling for you....to what reason? So he can feel justified in harming you????)
Please take care, and don't let things get too far. If you have any family at all that might be able to stay with you, or perhaps a friend??? I'm just very concerned for your safety.
