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Originally Posted by fembot067
Thank you very much, it seems you put hard work into trying to reason with yourself a sense of rationality about the situation. I am very poor at rationalising social situations and relationships, which in this case has also largely been my downfall.
It is nice to hear that you two are now speaking, however I think that once I have evaded this trigger (this guy), there is no going back. But then part of me wants to break that cycle of befriending people, ruining it because i'm tactless with my emotions and it scares people, and then never seeing them again.
He did give me 'chances' in all fairness, when I did lash out emotionally at him, but it was obvious why, because he was bored and lonely and just used me thrice.
all your advice IS helping me get through this.   |
you are welcome & glad i could help
rationality and relationships rarely co exist..i can promise you that. i've done some crazy things when in love..i have BPD so at times i can be extremely clingy which can be problematic & i need a lot of attention and affection and constant reassurance..which can be good and bad
as long as there are no surprises..i get on pretty good in a relationship, but when you get dissapearing acts & unanswered texts and things of that nature my BPD goes into overdrive thinking the worst.my one ex that i was so in love with struggled with drug addiction and that ruined our relationship..but i survived..it wasn't easy but i did.
it's a lot easy for me to be rational when i'm not in a relationship..but much harder when my feelings are involved, because i feel so intensely(which is good and bad IMHO) and love so deeply..which can be kinda scary for someone that's not used to that & of course that's not real common for a guy to be that way, so that complicated things further..but, i still try to make my way.
i think that you can too, once you get past this..in time..you won't think about him as much. because you don't have someone else to love and care for..you are still longing for that..so of course your heart subconsciously is going to go back to him because that's what you remember. i assure you, you meet the right guy & fall in love, you'll wonder what took you so long
obviously that will take time and effort, but knowing what you want and don't want in a guy will go a long way towards making you happy again and helping you move on!
hope this helps! & i'm glad i'm helping you get through this..it's tough..not easy at all!
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