Take control! Get some candles and put them around the room. If she is in the room let her watch. Dont say anything when she asks what in the world you are doing. Bring out some lotion and command her to take her cloths off and get on her stomach. Rub her shoulders, back, butt...... Get her relaxed. (kissing her neck and back every so often might turn her on) Then go from there. Take control of the situation.

There are times I wish my husband would just grab me by the waist and put me under him when we are in bed. Im the one that has to take the first step. Drives me crazy. I hate it. I wish he would take control.