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Originally Posted by gloamingone
Help! My therapist recently decided I'm codependent. My boyfriend doesn't see it at all. I tried explaining the symptoms, and he says I don't fit them. I started going to Codependents Anonymous, but if I'm not codependent, why bother? I'm totally open to what my therapist says, but this has thrown me for a loop. Any suggestions? Can you give me a brief description of codependency?
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I could look it up on line but I believe you should do that for your self. My concept of Codependency (I was one) is: An unhealthy relationship with another Codependent. And there are two basic forms of Codependency: the high/aggressive Codependent and their low/passive partner/victim Codependent. The two types can sometimes change places and go to the other side of Codependency so, it would help me at least to know more about what your therapist said or meant. If you examine the characteristics of Coda (I'm shortening it) you may see these two opposites and the fact that Codependents can mix and match the characteristics but the main thing is: are they happy and OK in their relationship? I went to CODA because I was miserable in my marriage!
good luck,
jim
