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Old Aug 21, 2014, 01:02 PM
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Originally Posted by lovebugg56 View Post
It feels amazing when he tells me he loves me and wants to be with me but its hard i dont want to lose feelings but i dont know if should break it off until he leaves or what. I love him so much
You do need to do, what is best for you. Either direction seems to cause grief and turmoil. Is he aware of how deeply painful this is for you?
Aside from those in your life who just don't want to hear it, is there anyone around who comprehends how your pain turns inwardly?

Does he spend time with you, outside of skype, text, email and chat?
When things in life go unexpectedly wrong, how does he react?
When you need a physical hug, does he provide it?
If you were sick and in the hospital would he be there?

What's really wrong with his marriage? Is his daughter in danger if he isn't under the same roof? Does he really subscribe to the notion that to divorce is to never see his daughter again? What does he do for a living?