So you are saying you're willing to remain this guy's dirty little secret because it feels amazing to hear how he loves you and wants to be with you but never actually will be?



We don't get to choose who we fall inlove with, but we DO get to choose who we stay with.

He's not choosing you

I understand that you're inlove, that leaving him will hurt, but you're young and you will heal and will find someone else to love. Someone who will actually love you back AND choose you.

The other painful truth is this; staying with him will also hurt, he will hide you, deny you, and never truly be yours. He'll never spend the whole night with you, let alone share a home with you, he'll never spend holidays with you, or devote any amount of tangible time to you.

He can only be with you when its convenient for him. Are you ok with being a convenience?

What if you fall pregnant?

Will your child be another dirty secret?
Will he be there when you go into labour?
Will he attend parent-teacher meetings and actively support your child's extra-curricular activities?
How will you explain to your child why daddy can never spend Christmas with them? Why daddy had to miss birthdays? Or why they're excluded from daddy's family vacation?

He's not choosing you.

So why exactly are you choosing him?

Part of maturing into adulthood is making responsible decisions, and responsible decisions can rarely (if ever) be made with one's heart alone.

Since you are on the younger side, older members here have taken the time to provide you with a glimpse into your future with this man.

A future we've either lived or witnessed.

So if you wake up one day and say "I never thought it would turn out like this" know that you CHOSE to proceed with your eyes wide shut.