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Originally Posted by soundslikebliss
BUT! I told my ex (at the time) that I wanted to do this to cure my depression. I never kept ANYTHING from her because I cared about her feelings as well. I gave her an out, but she said she was fine with me doing it because she knows that I will never see them again.
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I think the difference is that: you told her after you already did and she did understand your reason so, what you are looking for from her is to tell you after she did also. I think she assumed that you understand what she is doing because she understood you then. If you were to choose to start over with her, maybe you should discuss to agree on something before doing, if she does it without your consent and you find out later that she did, then she breached. Ask her if she breached, if she denies then, that is a LIE, if you fail to ask then, that is not a lie, it's just being not "open".
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Originally Posted by soundslikebliss
So what I need help on is:
How do I let that stuff go? How do I delete the images of other guys being with her while we have sex? Should I just move on?
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I think if you really love her wholeheartedly, you will be looking at her as "TODAY" that you don't care of the past. IMO, that stuff would go if you decide not to see her again and move on. If you take it as an experience to learn from, that you deserve better than her and stop asking the "what if" question, it's easy to let go, I suppose.
If you are to have sex with her again and see images of other guys with her that means that you haven't forgiven her and that you don't really love her because you are entertaining your mind to rule you. In my opinion, you are not emotionally hurt but rather, you are mentally hurt because of EGO.
Wish you the best buddy!