I wish I had answers too. Even having an accurate diagnosis and the answer, oh I have this that makes sense, doesn't mean I have found a solution. I would like to know why and what will fix it.

It is not so much the anxiety, depression, bi polar II that bothers me but how it affects my life and those around me. Just like you said it is affecting you and your family.

Maybe keep playing with the meds until you find a combo that works. That is what I have done along with lots of other things including therapy. the problem is I find one that works like a miracle and over time it quits working. The different treatments often overlap the different labels.