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Originally Posted by cremedelacreme
I am VERY hypersensitive lately. Anything remotely negative anyone has said has stuck with me and I cannot stop thinking about it. I was bullied last week by a member of senior management at my work and everyone I told said- oh well that is just how she is (the VP). It has me dreading going into work tomorrow though. I need to learn how to stick up for myself but cannot. As soon as someone says something my lips quiver and I start crying. I cry thinking about it.
It also goes for family members, my boyfriend, members of his family. People say things they won't think about again but I cannot stop. I am very sad, angry, and resentful because of it.
Any tips on hypersensitivity? Or how I can cry at the drop of a hat. I immediately cry about everything.
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Yes, I have tips!
This used to happen to me constantly, but recently, I feel that I have figured it out what is happening and what to do about it too. Very often when someone is depressed, they will also be hyper-hyper sensitive to criticism or praise. If someone says something insulting to you, it will "stick". It will come up in your mind again and again and again and again and again and again and again. It will happen compulsively. Notice that this is almost exactly the same thing as "holding a grudge." If someone is holding grudges, I think that's a very strong indication of depression.
The insight that I only recently had about what to do about it is this: The true source of your problem is not the person who bullied you or even the particular thoughts or feelings you have about being bullied. The true underlying problem is that you are having thoughts and feelings in general in a compulsive, uncontrolled manner without DECIDING to have those thoughts and feelings. The particular feelings, thoughts and the people involved are incidental. It doesn't even matter if they are accurate thoughts or justified feelings.
This is all my opinion, but I really think I'm right about this and I really think I know what to do about it too. What to do about it is described here
http://forums.psychcentral.com/depre...n-escaped.html
- vital