I can count on one hand the times that I had to spank my daughter . Shes 23 now and perfectly fine.

When it happened she was in a full rage on 3-4 year old temper tantrum on the floor in a store and I physically wasn't able to pick her up , smack on her butt , broke the bond of her anger long enough for me to get her walking out the door and home to where time out and loss of toys and her books were the punishment.

I did swat her in anger once, She was 6 maybe 7 and was playing in the back yard with our dog , she walked out the gate and when I saw her on the edge of the pond I ran and jerked her back from the edge and smack her backside very hard... and she knew she was never allowed down the street to a pond full of gators. My fear of what could have happened is what cause me to lash out in anger. I dont regret that at all... She could have been killed.

There is a huge difference between a wack on the butt and abuse .

Just my opinion.