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Originally Posted by CrazyGirl6371
So, I just want to know what everyone else thinks... So, here it goes. I am currently having trouble balancing my life. I am in contact with four people I love/have loved. What do you think I should do?
CODY - I loved him years and years ago; we recently got back in touch. He's sweet and gentlemanly. I don't love him, anymore. I've moved on. But could this eventually be worth getting into? He has a baby girl.
MATT - I waited for him for about a year, and we dated for one year and four months. I am back in contact with him, as well, after about three years... A lot was happening when we were together; he was very ill, and he lost his younger brother. He made me stronger. He was going to propose to me. He hasn't dated anyone else, just had a friend with benefits that didn't work out. He is Agnostic; I'm Christian.
RAYMOND - We dated briefly in high school. He waited on me for about five years. We got back together and got engaged. I broke off the engagement, because I didn't feel ready or like he respected me or my beliefs. He is still a virgin, as well. He says he is Agnostic, as well.
CHRIS - He's my best friend. We had some romantic feelings for a couple months, but he doesn't love me. I love him. We're still just best friends. He told me to get over him, but I cannot. He has a baby boy. Should I wait for him?
So, voting time! Who do you think is best?
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+1 on none of the above.
In detail:
Cody+Chris have little babies, each. This is something that would need a lot of positives to outweigh. Not that babies are a negative, but it means that Cody+Chris had babies in fairly irresponsible ways, or at least there is a high chance that they did, because they are available to you so early in their children's lives. Plus, you might not be ready for step-mothering. It is a tough path - not something to choose without a lot of thinking. So, without ruling them out, let us see if you have anything so positive as to outweigh the fact that there are little babies involved.
Cody: you do not love him.
Chris: he does not love you.
So this is sufficient to say that neither with Chris nor with Cody do you have enough positive to outweigh the existence of little babies who probably were not conceived in a particularly responsible way.
This is enough - once you rule things out, you do not need to regurgitate and consider other factors as this would just waste your time.
Process of elimination.
Next,
Matt+Raymond are agnostic while you have Christian beliefs. Those beliefs are important to you, or else you would not have mentioned them. So this rules out Matt+Raymond.
Again, this is sufficient and we need not dissect further. Matt+Raymond are eliminated.
So
none of the above.
You can probably tell that I used to teach multiple choice test prep
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POE=process of elimination. POE, POE, POE and we are done.