I feel that the more you engage in introspection (self-reflection) and shed Awareness and light onto WHY you find yourself becoming attached to certain types of people so easily - the more you will gain control over this happening and you will gradually liberate (free) yourself from these attachments. In otherwords when you lack Awareness and this happens subconsciously (or unconsciously), you have little insight into what is transpiring within you when this plays out. Thus the more likely you are to continue to repeat those experiences.

However, as you increase your Awareness and bring insight (light) to exactly what is transpiring within you and why it occurs, you will lessen the 'charge' of the compulsion to do this and that need/impulse will begin to dissolve and fade away. It sounds like some of you already have connected the dots with regards to past relationships (or lack thereof) being the primary driving force behind the type of individuals and relationships that you are attached to. It's a very important step that you have developed this Awareness. : )

I know it's a very challenging task but I believe if you want to transcend these attachments you have to continue to work on healing yourselves from the emotional energy that you carry with you from your past (life experiences) - which is serving as the fuel for these attachments. To work on releasing those sensitive emotions by bringing them to the surface and consciously experiencing them in order to purge them and purify yourself in the process. I would imagine that letting down your defenses and engaging in therapeutic crying (emotional release), writing about your sensitive feelings & emotions, and also finding a healthy outlet (like this medium/forum) or a compassionate listener - that these types of practices would be viable methods for furthering the process of purification and transcendance.

You don't need to change anything about your past. There is nothing wrong with what you are experiencing. Through this process you are learning, growing, and evolving your state of being (as we all are) and through bringing yourself to the point where you rise above these attachments, you will be strengthening and refining your state of consciousness in doing so. Lots of love to you all.


(non-attached group hug)

: )