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Originally Posted by newgal2
Along with my depression comes a "can't-do" attitude (as opposed to a can do one). This illness robs me of my self confidence, alone with self esteem. I seem to lack confidence that I can do the simplest of things - - like do a load of laundry or go to the grocery store. I'm not sure what I think is going to happen when I try these things, but it is just horrible to doubt your ability to accomplish even small things all day long.
Does anyone else with depression experience these feelings and, if so, what do you do to combat them?
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Notice that when you are depressed, you don't say to yourself:
"I am depressed. I am not going to do the laundry or go to the grocery store or get dressed or take a shower. Instead, I am going to curl up in my bed all day."
That's not what happens. You don't decide to do these things. You don't decide NOT to do these things. You are stuck in the middle. Helpless. These things cycle through your mind all day while you're, say, curled up in a bed or go though your day in an unconscious habitual manner.
If this is describing you, it may be an important clue. You may be unconsciously avoiding that inner part of yourself that DECIDES what you do, think and feel. I think that many depressives get pushed into this mode under stress without realizing it. If you think this may be true for you, I really think it's worth trying SNAP CLUB. This is meant to use tiny decisions to train yourself into staying in touch with your inner decider. If I am correct about this in your case, it will have a big positive effect on you fairly quickly.
- vital