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Originally Posted by AtWarWithMyself
I don't think it's crazy for you to be upset. My husband did the same thing for like the first five/six years. He would make plans and then inform me. I had to sit and talk with him and let him know that we needed to plan these trips together. Granted my family lives 7 mins away and his 7 hours. It still mattered to me who we spend holidays with. I would have some empathy for him though bc we would see my family all the time throughout the year. And typically his on our summer trip. It's hard. Communication and understanding are the key. You must tell him how you feel. The more you talk things through the stronger your relationship will become. I wish you the best.
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Yes, that's very much like our set up - his family is 8 hours away and mine is in the same town. I try to be empathetic about him wanting to see his family, but it's hard when he doesn't want to see them and just talks about it being his duty.
What I am having a problem with is that he will not compromise. He agrees to a compromise and then backs out. Last year, he promised we would stay in a hotel next time. By the time this year rolls around, that promise is forgotten.