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Originally Posted by A Red Panda
Ok, so I am going to try to say this gently, because I mean it to be supportive and to try and help shed some light on how your friend may possibly be feeling, ok?
If your friend says that she felt you were demonstrating some stalking behaviour, it might mean that you were becoming too dependent upon her. It's a big burden to find out that you're the only support someone has, and that they have major transference towards you. Your friend can't be your mother, and she likely got overwhelmed by how intensely you tried to force that role on her. (again, you and she will likely have differences on opinions in regards to this).
Perhaps you don't view yourself as having done anything, but it's clear that she feels you have. I know it feels and seems like she's done this abruptly, but there's also a chance that she's been trying to separate from you and has failed at establishing a healthy relationship/boundary with you. There may have been signs of this that you missed, because you were pushing so hard to make her into something that she can't be.
I'm sorry, I know that that is probably really hard to hear. And again - I don't know her, or you, or what really has gone on within your relationship. So I may be totally wrong, but it at least warrants consideration.
If you are young enough for your parents to still have control over your medical situations, then that means you are still a student (plus you mentioned exams). There should be a school counsellor that you can talk to?
Reaching out like you have here is a great step, and takes a lot of courage! You can form friendships online; some of my closest and longest-running friendships are online ones!

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I have tried thinking about it from her position, i never thought of it like that as in that i was becoming to dependant on her, thank you
But she said she considered me as her daughter and told me that she loves me, i didn't force her....i would say she was encouraging it, she gave me access to her facebook, she gave me her number and email so i dont understand why all of a sudden....note: she was an online friend almost three times my age....and if i was to take a guess i would say she has DID so i thinking i should wait for her to come round and befriend me again which in itself may be silly
Thank you for your message, i really appreciate it, it allowed me to see it from a different perspective and made me calm down, maybe she does feel as you say she might be feeling
yes i am a student (university)...they do have a counselling service but it is only for a short period of time and i find it very difficult to talk so if i actually went i wouldnt say a word
I generally dont trust other people, they always stab me in the back by saying that im weird or claim that ive done something wrong when i really haven't....i think i just dont understand the concept of friendship