alwayschangeing2 ...rapidly switching from one alter to another or back and forth is quite common with DID. the psychological term for it is called the revolving door. its also common for alters to talk, discuss and sometimes argue. this is called being co conscious with each other and establishing communication. Some people have to work very hard to do this others it just happens that their alters can do this. it may not seem like it but its actually a good thing. most if not all people that have internal systems that can do what yours can do tend to progress and become one whole person again at a faster rate because they can skip the step of working to establish co consciousness and communication between everyone.

one thing that helps those that I know that have reached this level of healing is finding out what each alters preferences are and keep available options for them...example when I found out Rainy was shy, quiet, sad, loved blankets I bought a few soft blankets and some things she could do by herself when she wanted to be by herself like coloring books, books on tape, playdoh. when I found out that thelma loved make up I bought a basic make up kit, mirror. ...

since you have co consciousness (can hear and talk with your alters, understand what they are fighting about) you are in the best position to help them. ....maybe you all can sit down and write out some rules and instead of having one host have co hosts where like others here on psych central have with their systems of instead of having that one alter in control the alters work according to who does what when.. one comes out when its time to drive, another comes out when its time to cook, another comes out when its time to pay the bills. each alter is an equal just like normal people everyone is equal.