Thank you for your comments. It was not my intention to sound patronizing. I identified a lot with the original post. I was often complaining that something was wrong at work or in my therapy, and that i had a better way, and that it was very important we do things my way. I now believe this behavior was not in my best interest, but it was the best i could do at the time. Nevertheless, i was acting out a childhood pattern of being overly responsible, as my parents neglected me, so i had to take care of myself. I often panicked. I detected the same note of panic in the original post.

So i suggested finding and using these specific lessons of dbt here. It is a little unusual, but i think it would work. And i thought Scarlet would find it intriguing, challenging, yet solvable. Personally i hate boring silly made-up problems. But i do love a good metaphor, and in this way, Scarlet would be tending her own dbt garden and hopefully she would enjoy a tasty and healthy harvest.