Thank you BlueDove. I know I have to do something I have tried to talk to her before (wrote out what I wanted to say and then sat and talk to her) the conclusion she came to was that I was to immature and blame her for everything... That was before I had kids, before I got married. I would love to write to here now but I know what ever I say will be turned around on me. I told her I needed to focuse on my kids and my husband when she tried to enclude me in family drama it turned into I didn't have time for my family I had to focus on my inlaws. I wish I knew she was still doing drugs then I'd have an excuse for this.