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Originally Posted by Hooligan
Hi HockingPastryChef
There are number of things in this post:
I want to touch base on this one -
"But one thing is I don't think he sees my values very well. He's asked me certain questions and tells me things that I find to be too far, which are sexual. I do agree it's healthy to talk about sex in a relationship but I find it to be too early to be talking that far; I feel uncomfortable."
You need to make a clear statement about this.
I know that you have said you already have.
But use this time whilst you are on holiday to reflect upon your relationship and the value it will have for you if this relationship goes forward in the future.
And about what your alternatives are if he continues to choose to ignore the fact that you are uncomfortable discussing this with him yet repeatedly ignores this sign.
Best wishes to you.
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Thank you.
I guess be a lot more forward when I talk to him again. I see, if I choose to stay with him that I need to put more of my patience on the line and repeat certain things toward him; he does forget a lot.
I think I will tell him that "I do like the affection but I don't want to go too far into talking about sex and making too many sexual comments in this relationship; I do feel uncomfortable. I know I have not been clear enough about this and have almost let it fly by but please stop." Ask him how he sees this relationship too.
I will reflect upon it more during the time of being away too...