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Originally Posted by NowhereUSA
DBT Ts are well aware of SI and SUI thoughts. They're trained to deal with it.
Have you ever read about Marsha Linehan who wrote DBT? Take a moment and read her story if you haven't (I may have posted it before, but I think it's worth a second read). Expert on Mental Illness Reveals Her Own Fight
DBT wasn't developed by some cold clinician. It was developed by a woman who has and does live these things.
If it helps, here's the list of assumptions for DBT. In my own book I have an updated version since Linehan just released the second edition and it has an explanation for each of the assumptions for clients.
I'd type up the new one because I think it's really pretty fantastic (much improved on the one that I linked above), but it's long.
And if you don't like this DBT T, you can always ask to see another one. |
Thank you for the article on Linehan. I knew she suffered from BPD. I had started reading her book, but the vocabulary in that is difficult for me to get through. But I learned a new word from trying to read her book: etiology
I also wrote her once. Never heard back.
I read the list of assumptions. My fear is that my T said many of theses things to me also:
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About Treatment
1. The most caring thing a therapist or treatment provider can do is help people change in ways that bring them closer to their own ultimate goals.
2. Clarity, precision and compassion are of the utmost importance.
3. The treatment relationship is a real relationship between equals.
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And this one scares me:
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About Clients
6. People need to do better, try harder and be more motivated to change.
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This is concerning because I am trying so
hard to do
better. What if it's believed that I'm not trying hard enough?
I really need someone who is honest, open, upfront, caring, authentic, and intelligent. Those are necessary. I can't trust or be open w/o those. My fear with DBT is the structure. Does this structure allow room for relating? For a healthy connection?
My T didn't really want to address the attachment issue even though she said we could as often as I wanted to. My need for reassurance was always challenged at first. I enjoy bei g challenged, but not having to constantly prove why I needed xyz from her. Like when I asked her if my attachment bothered her. She challenged me by saying why does it matter? I wrote a thread on the forums about that. I came up with a good list of why it mattered to me. We never got to address it. We never got a chance to address a lot of things
I will be going. I don't want to regret not going. And I'm taking my puppy, my fiance, and all pocket riders
But I'm still terrified of this woman.