Whoa.

Your story is not atypical. Some women do indeed go into therapy and convince their therapist that their partner is abusive, and it goes downhill from there, because the therapist only hears one side of the story and therefore supports the client. Ya, its sort of what therapists are supposed to do, support the so called battered wife, but I have a feeling there is no training where a therapist is taught how to pick out those who lie and exaggerate. It also happens in couples counseling where one person will manipulate the counselor into believing that the other partner is abusive, and it becomes a 2 on 1 situation.

Sadly, you may be at the point where you need to get out NOW if you want any sort of future with your kids. She's already recording your arguments.......so yes, you WILL appear to be abusive to a judge, mediator, etc because the other 99% of the time that you are fine will not be shown. And again, society is programmed to believe the "battered wife" so the odds are indeed stacked against you.