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Old Apr 24, 2015, 11:08 PM
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Originally Posted by ~Christina View Post
If you don't have the money for retail therapy....

Isn't your husband going to find out? How is he going to react when he sees that your Bipolar spending is going to cause a financial hardship? Sure he will be very upset, But I imagine hearing it from you would be easier than when he realized that maybe you wont have to money to pay a bill or have to cut back on food or something.

I would advise you to hand over any debit or credit cards to him and remove your payment information on whatever sites your using...

I spend myself into a black hole from hell about 20 years ago. I almost lost my house and I went 8 days with no food , I was able to buy enough to feed my daughter not myself... She always came first. So I have been there and done that.

Please just return all the items your buying.
My husband won't find out because I am putting it on a credit card, one that I pay and I have the login info for. I don't think I have the self-control to return this stuff and, selfish as it may be, I don't want to return it. As you said, it is retail therapy and it has given me joy. I haven't had many clothes that fit since I gained weight and it feels good to feel good about myself. As for the accessories, I got a ton of them because I was buying off of ebay and they were cheap but they added up quickly. My husband does know about, and was ok with, about half of my spending. I will say though, since we usually have a very open relationship, I do feel terrible for keeping it from him. I have got to stop spending and I keep saying I will and then I just spend more...on me, on my kids. I really may cut up the cards and remove the auto cards on paypal like you suggested. I just need to make myself do it.
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