Spending money

Some of you may remember that I spent over $300 when we don't have the money. Now I am online about to spend more. Talk me out of it!!!!

Don't do it. Go outside instead. It hurts when you need the money for something else and you've spent it. I'm in that boat!

Are you near Louisville? Go to a derby event. I think tonight is the balloon glow.

I'd talk you out of it, except I'm in the same boat. Sunglasses, clothes, shoes, handbags, you name it. I've been spending like there's no tomorrow. And I feel so guilty.

I will watch this thread to see if maybe I can be talked out of spending more, too.

I spent it. I can't decide if I'm happy or disappointed but either way, I won't be telling my husband. Thank you both!

Great suggestion HallieBeth!

The hot air balloon race is tomorrow and blues traveller is playing in the waterfront tomorrow night! you just need a Pegasus pin!

If you don't have the money for retail therapy....

Isn't your husband going to find out? How is he going to react when he sees that your Bipolar spending is going to cause a financial hardship? Sure he will be very upset, But I imagine hearing it from you would be easier than when he realized that maybe you wont have to money to pay a bill or have to cut back on food or something.

I would advise you to hand over any debit or credit cards to him and remove your payment information on whatever sites your using...

I spend myself into a black hole from hell about 20 years ago. I almost lost my house and I went 8 days with no food , I was able to buy enough to feed my daughter not myself... She always came first. So I have been there and done that.

Please just return all the items your buying.

Great suggestion. ^ Return the items.

Give someone your cards. Or cut them up.

My husband won't find out because I am putting it on a credit card, one that I pay and I have the login info for. I don't think I have the self-control to return this stuff and, selfish as it may be, I don't want to return it. As you said, it is retail therapy and it has given me joy. I haven't had many clothes that fit since I gained weight and it feels good to feel good about myself. As for the accessories, I got a ton of them because I was buying off of ebay and they were cheap but they added up quickly. My husband does know about, and was ok with, about half of my spending. I will say though, since we usually have a very open relationship, I do feel terrible for keeping it from him. I have got to stop spending and I keep saying I will and then I just spend more...on me, on my kids. I really may cut up the cards and remove the auto cards on paypal like you suggested. I just need to make myself do it.

Well, I just incurred the last of my extravagant expenses. I earned "citi cash" which is a promo from my favorite store where you get bogo half off a certain amount of your purchase depending on how much you spent on your last purchase. Well, mother's day and my birthday are both coming up so my husband agreed to let me spend $100 that I had available (which equaled $200). Well, I narrowed my cart down to $150 and asked if that was ok with him. He said yes on the agreement that I DON"T SPEND ANYMORE MONEY!!! Well, about a half an hour later, I was on the site about ready to spend another $50 when, low and behold, I stopped myself!!! It looks like I may actually be regaining some self control, lol. That said, here it is, 4:45 AM, I took my meds, and I am still awake. Not a good sign.

Oh good for you !!!!!!