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Originally Posted by missbella
I think it's a given that many posts here are about personal sensitive issues. I also believe it's nearly universal that few of us welcome criticism, condescension and smugness at our expense
I think advice--is complicated, and easily can be a disguise for self-congratulations, superiority and demeaning. If I give advice, the onus of me to do so out of generosity, not from my own deficiencies. If I set off another person's defensiveness, that indicates I've failed, delivering the advice poorly or with a dishonest, selfish agenda. If I need to lash at and brand someone who refuses my "wisdom," maybe I'm not so honest and not so wise.
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I try very hard not to give advice, only my own experience. If I write something that causes someone pain, no matter where that pain is coming from, I am comfortable withdrawing my response, because, I am not wanting to cause them more pain.
Also, I have requested help with how to post better, and I am still waiting, but I also know because of this thread I may never get that response, because there are quite a few others in the same boat as me.
ETA: When I speak about sensitivity I was not speaking about the original poster I was speaking of those who respond to the post. Sorry I was not clear about that. English is not my first language. I understand the OP is usually posting because of an issue that may have them in a quandary.