Do u know what alter she is connecting to? Is it one u don't have much contact with? My T was in contact with some alters that turned out to be significant to how our system works before we realized they were even there. They responded to a touch on our arm without triggering our protective alters. Meaning for some reason those alters didn't feel threatened. My T had a lot of experience with DID and knew it was important to relate to them and make them feel safe so that later the system could let them tell us what they knew. For us it was a slow process but when the path was paved we dealt with it without reverting to destructive behaviors and were able to move on. We didn't know that's what was going on but T did. Now that I think of it, they were all young alters. I'm reminded of that because u mentioned a blanket and that's something a young alter would find comforting.