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Originally Posted by wanttomakeadiffrenc
I see a lot of promise in you. Getting admission in to a law school is difficult which you have done. Can you try to see a different therapist and a psychiatrist.
Please go thru referrals. Ask your General practioner to recommend one.
Or please check with someone in this group.
I think you are lacking concentration. Can you first try to try read story books, nonfiction books and fiction books to see whether you are able to grasp it first.
Join a public library.Select books from bestseller.
Join a gym and exercise.
Watch good/inspirational movies and see if you are able to concentrate.
Even though you might not be interested try to force yourself to do it.
Do you speak with your relatives. If not start with speaking with them.
There might be groups in your area which meet face to face for people suffering
From depression. Join those groups first.you can get to know some good psychiatrists from them also.
I am 43 and I messed up my life And I am disabled for life because
Of my illness. You work hard and I am sure you will succeed.
Please go through some motivational quotes like from Hellen Keller etc.
Are you getting good sleep.
Do you believe in a higher power. If yes try to develop stronger
Faith.
Also try to meditate which will improve your concentration.
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I'm considering switching therapists. Mostly it seems like a hassle because at the very least I've established a good relationship with my current one, and it's gonna be months of developing that bond of trust all over again. It seems like adding yet another waste of time to the pile.
Previously (up to about a couple of years ago) I would usually read or watch movies or TV, or play games instead of doing whatever I should be doing. Currently I can't even do those things. I can't concentrate enough to sit through an episode of a TV show. I can't read a single page in one sitting, even if it's a book I thought I was interested in reading.
I got a year-long membership for a nearby gym last year (or the year before that, can't remember). Working out never really helped me feel better, and by the end of it it was simply helping me feel guilty and irresponsible for not going as often as I should, and (again) feeling like I had wasted my time and money.
I don't have a particularly close relationship with any of my relatives, even though I live with them. They're not bad people but they're all stuck inside their own little worlds. I've never been able to relate to them on a meaningful level.
I'm not sleeping well. I consider it a grand achievement when I manage to go to bed before 2AM, even on school nights. I often sleep less than 5 hours a day, except on some holidays and weekends, where I tend to grossly oversleep. I sporadically try to fix my schedule by going to bed on time, it tends not to last more than a couple days.
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Originally Posted by Rohag
Hello & Welcome, Ahueonao. Have you known anything other than school and studies?
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I've never had a job. Recently I've started sending resumes and applying for jobs published through my college's portal - usually for part-time paralegals or whatever the english term is. Considering I'm taking a lot of courses this semester (and will have to keep doing so if I want any chance of graduating on time) it's unlikely any other job will fit into my schedule.
With a couple of exceptions (all of which I gave up on rather quickly), I've never had a social circle related to anything outside of school.
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Originally Posted by jo_thorne
Hello, Ahueonao. Thanks for writing your post. I'll bet you're going to get LOTS of advice.  I'm going to give some. It's based on my own experience with depression. Mine started when I was 25 and I'm now in my early 50s. (I haven't been depressed that whole time.)
Because the symptoms you're describing are so pervasive and because of the sleep disturbance you mention, it really sounds like you need antidepressant medication and something to fix your sleep problems (sometimes that can be an antidepressant - I'm taking 7.5 mg mirtazipine for sleep problems right now, and it's helping tremendously.)
You might think about whether you should find a new therapist. Each therapist uses different methods for treatment, plus they have different personalities, so it's a matter of trying until you find one that can help you.
For a few months, I'd say that the more therapy (individual, group therapy, online therapy) you can do, the better. There's an online "free talk" site with trained listeners that I keep meaning to try that I have heard good things about. It's called 7 cups of tea.
I experienced a long depression that I just started to come out of about three months ago. I started getting better when I started going to therapy and when I was prescribed the med that is helping my sleep get back to normal.
There is a long list of other things that help depression, like eating well and exercising, and taking certain nutritional supplements, but you may not feel able to concentrate on that sort of thing until you start to feel a bit better. If you have access to a holistic physician, I would recommend seeing one.
Oh, I forgot to add - see a regular doctor to get checked for medical conditions that can cause depression like thyroid disease, anemia, low vitamin D3 or B12 levels, etc. if you can. The chance that you have one of those conditions may be low if you're young and healthy, but at the same time, if you do have one of them, your depression probably won't respond to antidepressants.
I hope you'll post again at this forum. I started coming to it last winter. Besides gaining useful information about my mental health conditions, watching so many people struggle with their mental health has helped me somewhat to move from feeling really passive to wanting to try harder to get better.
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I tried the 7cot page, as I also tried a similar one before (blahtherapy). I'd blow off some steam listening to other people's problems, and sometimes even managed to give well-received advice, but never had any luck when I was the one seeking advice. Stating my situation over and over only serves to make me even more anxious, and I just can't bring myself to take any advice sent my way as anything other than platitudes and empty phrases. To me it's completely meaningless having people say "Well, I believe in you!" or "you can do it!". When told at somebody you literally know nothing about and have been in conversation with for less than five minutes, it sounds phony. I usually just quit the chat in frustration.
Last session with my therapist we discussed looking into group therapy options. I think I'll wait and see how that works out before deciding whether or not to change therapists.
I think I ruled out relevant medical conditions some time ago - at least it's not a thyroid thing.
My eating habits are somewhat on the poor side. just like with my sleep schedule, I sporadically try to fix them (mostly by counting calories and trying to stick to a healthy but not too restrictive menu) but I rarely follow through for more than a week. I give up on most things easily.