My spouse tell me to talk to him when I am upset or irritated and then turns around to tell me why I shouldn't feel the way that I do. It's gotten to be a major source of conflict and recently escalated. I have gained a good bit of weight once being on anti anxiety meds and am having issues losing it. He knows this. We were at the mall yesterday and he picked up a shirt with 3 girls in thong bikinis, and asked if he could wear that one..... I get that it was a joke fom his point of view, but it hit me like a brick, so I got quiet. He asked what was wrong so I quietly but plainly explained my feelings on him being inconsideratr. .... he was infuriated, told me why I shouldn't feel that way and how it bothered him and told me what irritated him..... all while still in the mall...... it was all I could do to fight back from crying.... why does he do this?