Oh yeah, when some jerkoff told me that, lol, that my T might not always have what I needed or do the right thing or whatever, I didn't accept that for probably... couple weeks? Hard to say, it's been a while now.

I see it as people hurting us inadvertently. I really don't think he's being malicious, more that he is just living his life, whether that means being at an event, or turning off his phone for a while, or waiting to discuss this in person where he can communicate better, or whatever reasons we can guess or not imagine, that... he doesn't mean to hurt you. And so, it will work out.

Because I believe in this concept of the "good enough mother" which ties in with the thread on dependence on therapists.

And the bare bones of the concept, is a good mother won't be around or do the right thing all the time.

We'll cry, and she won't hear it. We'll need something, and she'll mess it up, give us the wrong thing, or nothing.

But *most* of the time, she'll be there, consistent and caring.

A good therapist is like that to me. They will mess up. Royally, sometimes, but they'll keep showing up for us.

At least I hope to hell it's true, haha, because I am a mother, and I've left my daughter hanging at moments, or just plain messed up, and I've got most of my eggs in the "good enough" mother theory, haha, that actually, though it won't be fun or pretty, that when I mess up (not abuse her or anything horrific, but just mess up) that she'll actually develop through that, along with coming along thanks to all my caring.