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Originally Posted by peaches100
Amandalouise,
Thanks for your reply. You always give such thorough answers.
In reading your response, I wasn't sure if you were saying that it's a good thing to be aware of the child part(s) or not. At first, I thought you were saying that I was paying too much attention to those parts, which was why it was disturbing to me (like a person paying too much attention to an injury). But later, you said it was a good thing to be aware of them. So I'm a bit confused. Can you please clarify?
Thanks,
Peaches
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yes it is a good thing that you are aware of your parts,
my point was there is a natural process the brain goes through with anything in life...... when you discover something new what happens...your brain focuses on that new thing.
I chose an injury for an example because thats usually what people have in common and can relate to.
in reality it can be anything... you notice a gray hair, your brain makes you focus on it. you notice a new mole\zit\blemish, your brain processes it by constantly reminding you its there, you notice a bright object what does your mind do...keeps bringing this back to your minds attention...just a fact of how the brain works.
when someone notices they have parts of self the brain naturally focuses on that. as a result of this they pay more attention to these parts. this is a good thing because now that a person knows they switch into these normal parts of self it can be controlled. example when I notice I am slipping into my parent part at work I take a step back, breath and remind myself I am at work and that co worker is not my child that I need to parent. so what they are doing something in a way I would not, they are not my child and they are not me. then I smile and breath and resume with my responsible adult mind not the parent or child mindset. another example when I notice I am slipping into my normal child part (someone has said or done something that makes me want to throw a temper tantrum for example) I breath and remind myself I am at work, I can not scream, yell and throw a temper tantrum. I need to be the responsible adult self and continue doing my work appropriately.
if I wasnt aware of these normal parts of self and didnt pay attention to them what would happen? I could get fired from my job by switching into my child part of self right.
it is a very good thing that you now know you have these inner parts of self and can now focus on them because you can now fix the problem.