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Originally Posted by scorpiosis37
I guess what I meant by that is that if a woman seems in any way "masculine" to me it is a HUGE turn-off. I'm only attracted to women who are extremely feminine-- which is somewhat hard to find.
I'm the opposite; if chemistry isn't there immediately, it never develops for me. With all of my long-term relationships, I was interested in them within the first five minutes of meeting them. I've tried dating someone great who I didn't have chemistry with in the hopes that it would develop probably four or five times-- and it just never did. I've also never developed a crush on a friend/colleague over time. I don't know why I work the way I do; for me, it's just instant or it's not.
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For me instant intense chemistry happens precisely when the person is wrong for me. My t said is often typical. Your body and emotions subconsciously respond to what's familiar. And what's familiar is unfortunately isn't always good.
She asked me to try not to go for initial chemistry but for human qualities and emotional connection. I am now dating someone the first time that I felt no chemistry on the first and second and third date yet as we kept getting to know each other I am crazy about the guy. If I rejected him right away I would miss on a lot. Don't know where it is going, but he is cool.
I am surprised you say it's hard to find feminine lesbians. I know many through my daughter. My daughter is very girly ( she is bi-sexual) and every lesbian she dated was feminine -girly including her long term one she lived with for 4 years. She is with a man right now. Many of her lesbian girlfriends though are all very feminine. One of them dating one who is a bit masculine. They are all in late 20s early 30s. She lives in a very cosmopolitan area though as do I as well.
I always thought the only men out there are type A matcho types. Turned out I was just attracting that type into my life. There are other types out there!
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