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First, thank you for all the hugs. I appreciate them a lot!
QUOTE=Soccer mom;4547109]I don't think that's too unusual. When my mom was sick and right after she passed I wanted to be alone. But I also wanted people to reach out to me. I just didn't have the energy to explain the circumstances to many. I was also seeing my T and didn't feel much emotion in my sessions. Maybe it's a way for your mind to protect yourself.
Just keep trying to talk to her and explain that you feel this way.
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Thanks, Soccer mom. I don't have much energy now even though my H doesn't require any specific care now. I'm getting over a cold which is zapping more energy. I don't feel like doing or talking much.
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Originally Posted by hankster
Well, youve been practicing reaching out to her over these past few years. There was a thread here recently asking something like, are you close to your t? I told my t my answer was that we could get there when we needed to. I think you can too - its still a new habit for us so its not REAL comfortable to start off, but it doesnt have to be like it was way back when. I would be surprised if it were.  |
Thanks. hankster. Yes. I can get there when I need to. I like that. Just because I'm not sharing a lot of emotion with my T ATM doesn't mean I can't. We're very close.
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Originally Posted by divine1966
I am very sorry for what you are going through
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Thanks. divine.
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Originally Posted by growlycat
I'm so sorry Rainbow. Keep talking here. Reach out to T if you need it.
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Thanks. growly. I do feel comfort from the people in this forum.
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I'm so sorry... |
thanks. Lonesome.
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Originally Posted by stopdog
I like using the one I see to tell about the illness - she usually can stay back and I can talk about it without having to deal with all the goo that friends want to say. For me, the reporting and not having to deal with others responses is useful.
I am sorry you are going through this with your husband.
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I think I get it, SD. I'm sorry you're going through this too. People often say unhelpful things but they don't mean it. My T just listens. If that's what you mean by staying back. I've never quite understand what you mean by that.
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Originally Posted by Rive.
You (both) are going through so much rainbow.... there is no proper way to deal with the situation and you (any one of us, really) can only cope as best we can, from whatever life throws at us.
Just keep reaching out for T if/when needed. T seems to really care about you, so i doubt she’d take any pushing away the ‘wrong’ way, if that makes sense or simply just let you shut down without doing anything about it.
I am very sorry rainbow. Best to you and your H..
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Thank you, Rive. Yes. Ironically, my T's specialty is loss and grief.
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Originally Posted by divine1966
My t is being supportive of my ordeal with my moms cancer and she consistently asks even if I don't bring it up. I do find it comforting. She seems sincere
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I'm sorry about your Mom but glad your T is helpful.
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Originally Posted by ThingWithFeathers
Rainbow, so sorry that you and H are facing this challenge Love, care and peace to you. |
Thank you, ThingWithFeathers.
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Originally Posted by Gavinandnikki
I think I would also pull away a bit from my therapist. If I poured it out to her, I might not be able to hold it together enough to function through such a difficult time. I'd try and keep my pain close, even deny the pain, simply so I could get through my day.
I am sending you such warm and caring thoughts, Rainbow. Please come here, as often as you need to, to vent, cry, seek support, and lean on your PC friends. You deserve it.
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Thank you, Gavinandnikki. Maybe I'm denying the pain. I'm not sure what I'm doing.