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Originally Posted by miss_rainy
Just wonder what is everyone's main alter? Like the one that comes out the most and what do they look like? Also, what function do they provide you with, are they a protector, your child side or etc.
Mines a male version of me except he represents my inner side, the side I wish that could come out. Very musically talent, a dancer, smart-like a detective and he's psychic. The color purple is associated with him and he's very off and weird. He likes to sing... a lot  I always turn into him whenever I'm in a dream.
What does he look like? Well, he's got long, kinky hair like a lion's main. A pretty boy with brown skin. Slim and borders on the looks of a girl. Someday I'll draw him.
His function is my creative, happy side. He's what I should be, minus all the outside influence, the norms and social influence. I always been a kid and never really grew up but was forced too. So really he's what I should've been. I can't really show emotions well but can, so that helps me kinda feel normal.
How about you?
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I did not have one main alter. to understand this you will need to know a bit about dissociation and DID from my locations point of view.
here where I live and work dissociation is a reaction to a trigger....feeling numb, spaced out, disconnected from one self or ones environment and people around one self due to something happening that the person who dissociates can not handle.
dissociation happens on kind of like having a cold...there are many variations of how, when a person dissociates and what that person considers to be a trigger due to everyone has their own coping skills, their own culture, their own ways they react to things.
there is normal dissociation that everyone goes through and then the scale moves into the various mental disorders that are listed in the link at the bottom of my post. those in the link are only those recognized dissociative disorders in the USA.
thats the basics of dissociation. so now on to my system...
in my location and culture it is believed that every system has what my location \ culture calls the host (the physical body, the one born to the body)with some people who undergo the extreme trauma that causes DID their physical body is there because thats where everyone (the alters and one born to the body ) with in resides. but in extremely rare cases the person born to the body has been so traumatized by the extreme trauma needed to create DID in very young children (my location statistics\demographics under the age of 5) that their born to the body person is very well hidden and in many cases unknown to the rest of the system.
I (amanda) was the host (the physical body/ one born to the body.) I was the one diagnosed with DID and the one that was in control unless I dissociated due to being triggered.
As a result of being triggered I would dissociate into which ever alter who's job, purpose, reason for being was to handle that....
example when ever i got triggered and dissociated due to intimacy my alter thelma was in control.
another example when ever I got triggered and dissociated due to being over excited, and other positive emotions my alter sunny took control of the body.
another example when ever I got triggered and dissociated due to anger my alter red took over.
another example when ever I got triggered and dissociated due to sadness, depression, grief needing to cry my alter Rainy would take control of the body.
what did my alters look like...sorry cant tell you that for I did not visually see my alters. when I did see alters my treatment providers called that psychosis/hallucinations\delusional thoughts. the belief was and is in my location people with DID can not see their alters. the alters are inside us not outside. even when a dissociative looks in the mirror what they see is not the alter inside. they see the physical body that everyone resides with in. sometimes that physical body doesnt feel right or a feeling that it should look differently but its not like you see in movies where they portray a persons physical body morphs or shape shifts into a completely different persons body. there are subtle changes like how a person moves, behaves, talks, breaths....while in control of the body but the physical body does not suddenly revert to a 2, 3 4 year old body. a person who is say 50 and they switch into an alter that is 8 is still going to look like a 50 year old because they are in a 50 year old body. therefore I can tell you when I dissociated into an alter i still looked how ever age and physical appearance that i had normally.
thats not saying each of my alters didnt have their own preferences for things like make up, clothing and such because they did. as thelma I wore a great deal more make up than I did as for example rainy. each of my alters had their own way of being.
what was their function....each of my alters were created under extreme abuse which means they each had their own job, purpose for being created. how they functioned was based on this and what triggered me to dissociate...
if I was afraid of the dark the alters who's job, purpose was to handle being in the dark took over...