Yes, we still have choices to make. I'm still counting on her making the right one. We are always in tune with each other - she is always at odds with him. I agree that consciously or unconsciously she makes decisions that involve me. I consider it a blessing to spend time with her. I want to be there for her - always. Am I being used? Likely! Do I care - nope! Am I happy? Only when I'm with her.