The thing is, at home there were not all that many things that came up over the years. I do not get the sense that there was any over-reaching, long term ill intent. Generally speaking, I have felt that I was loved and cared about all my life. I still do feel that way. However, my parents do not take to criticism well. Whenever I have said that they have done something wrong, they seemed to take offense at this. They seemed to really want to be considered in the "right" all the time with regard to things related to their parenting. To them, they were perfect. They even called themselves "perfect parents" one time. They would always brag about all the things that they do for me and the lengths that they would go to. Granted, they did do a lot and they really did seem to not only care but really give a lot of gusto to giving me opportunities. Then, as I have gotten older, I began to bring up some of the things that did happen of a negative nature, because they obviously were not perfect people. Some of them, they admitted to, but tried to minimize. They would try to write it off as having been "nothing", etc., but at least admitted it happened. However, when I brought up how they used to always comment on my weight (a number of people in my family had very early heart disease, so it wasn't really just to be mean), they said that this happened maybe 1 or 2 times at most! There were other things too, that they said and did numerous times but say it just happened a few times. We aren't talking about denial of any egregious behavior anything. It's just been that they do not readily admit to certain comments that would get made over the course of time that irked me. The few times that there was any seriously hurtful things said and done, the whole thing tends to get minimized if I bring it up. I have actually called them on this, and they get angry that I am mistrusting them. They adamantly deny that they have been intentionally manipulating me in any way. Could someone really have such a selective memory of events? Then again, it wouldn't really make a bit of sense to manipulate someone that you actually have done so much for and truly care about.