It really soothed my mind some to have read this post. I was always under the impression that a narcissistic person could not change their ways. But reading this and seeing the admissions of having NPD and wanting to change has given me hope. My husband is narcissistic and he has put me through living hell over the last 7 and a half years and as cliche as this sounds, I do really love him and do not want to lose him. But at the same time, I've lost myself to him. Before I get off track here I'll just go ahead and ask, Is there any thing that you could suggest that may assist me in helping him? Like, is there anything that your wives have done that has helped that perhaps I could try?