Its been a few months since your original post and I am glad to see that it seems you are getting stronger. I can relate to the drowning depression that a separation can cause. I myself went through something similar during my divorce. I worked full-time and had just enough strength to keep it together most of the day (many times I went to the bathroom to cry) but come night time, I shattered. I would cry myself to sleep, then wake up again and do it all over. It was awful. And it lasted for month-after-month and it made me very very discouraged. But, it eventually got easier. I know it was hard for me because I had just moved to a new state and new area and didn't know another SOUL except my then-husband. So, being absolutely alone was hard.

It took about 6 good months to get over that relationship. I clawed my way out of my depression. I saw a counselor. I put myself out there and just started doing what made ME happy. I lost a lot of that in my relationship. I LOVE to hike, he didn't. So, we never hiked. I LOVE horses, he didn't. So, I started to ride my horses more. I loved watching sappy chick flicks....you get the point.

Do what makes YOU happy. Life will keep turning, whether we want it to or not. There is no miracle cure or fix to get over this sort of feeling.

I am actually going through yet again another rough relationship. We are on the verge of separation. I was afraid I'd drop back to my deep dark depression. But, knowing I pulled myself out before, I am hopeful.

You can DO this. You lost a part of yourself in this separation. Your identity has become intertwined with another person's. But, identify the things that make you happy and DO them. Accept you can only control what you can control. You can't MAKE yourself bounce back. But, you can give yourself a goal to-- get out of bed by 2 PM. Or, go for a bike ride. Or, watch a nature program. Tiny goals that will help you feel accomplished.

Hang in there. I hope you continue to feel more secure in this decision. Doubt is the worst feeling ever. It is what keeps my in bad relationships. Wondering if I did enough. Feeling guilty for failing the other person. But, I realize, the only person putting that shame on me is ME. No one else can MAKE me feel guilty or bad or disappointing or less-than. I can look past that. I can know my worth, assign my worth, and support my own worth.