My son has told me that its either him or my husband. My husband is and has been an abusive selfish ***. But I cant divorce him. Or I dont want to. I dont know. Divorce was never a concept I considered part of my life. My mother divoree my dad when I was avbaby because he was a psycho drug addict. That made sense. Other than that,cdivorce has always been sonething other people would do. Plus I dont want to be divorced. I want my husband to be a decent person, a good husband and father. Even though I dont see him changing, why should I have to break my vow and give up what I committed to? My son says he wont come home from school if I dont divorce his dad. He says hes sick of the drama, even if its from the past and things my husband wont deal with. But I cant leave and any time I try to explain to my husband what our son says, he just gets mad and passive aggressive or leaves and spends the night at a motel to like punish me for telling him. He says he wants to know what colin says but he always ends up ticked off and making me pay. But my son is at school and now doesnt want to come home for Christmas or for anything. His sister, my older daughter is also graduating in December and he doesnt want to come home even for that if I wont agree to get divorced.