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Originally Posted by Restin
I've gone into a transference with T where I'm back at very early age of two or three. She first says how this is good and a big step to let it be there while we deal with the rejections/neglect I had in my past. She is so accepting and knowing about this scary stuff for me.
BUT she can't let a session go by that she doesn't remind me of how it's important to find people in my social circle to be friends with and love. I feel totally jerked around by this. It makes T out to be a liar to encourage my little child transference, then advise me to do like a grown-up and find my best friend in church, or somewhere else, to depend on.  |
I get where you are coming from, but I think the lie here would be to let you believe that T is the only person you do need. Yes, you do need her and she sounds like a caring, safe, nurturing T. That is a wonderful feeling to have and you are fortunate to have good support and security from her.
It sounds to me like this T is reminding you that while this need to heal the hurt left behind in your child parts is normal and needs to be fulfilled, you are also an adult that needs to have healthy, meaningful relationships in addition to the one she is giving you.
All in all, T is just being realistic here and actually doing you good by not letting you lose yourself any further in the transference. She is promoting a good balance between working out your past childhood issues and your current adult needs.