Quote:
Originally Posted by doodlefrog
Oh, my logical mind knows that emotional abuse is extremely damaging, and the wounds can last for years. It's that little voice in my head that tells me "quit whining, and just get over it."
|
Ok - so let's play "imagine if" for a minute...
Imagine if...
Your daughter grows up and when she is 19 and on her own, she falls in love with a man who treats her like a princess. She takes him home to meet you and you see how wonderfully he treats her n how happy they are. You are happy for her.
She goes back home - you start noticing she is calling you less and less. You chalk it up to her being busy with college and her boyfriend, and reason - she is in college now, learning to b her own person - n let it go. But ... when she does call, she doesn't seem to want to talk much or just wants money from you. After a few months of this - you start to feel she is using you simply bc she is used to "having mommy to fall back on", so - you tell her not to call if she only wants money but she is welcome to call for anything else. She stops calling altogether. You haven't heard from her in a few months. You decide to call her. She doesn't answer the first few times - nobody does. Then finally, someone answers, it's him - he tells you he moved in shortly after he came to meet you and he is sorry she hasn't been able to call lately, they have just been really busy - but she is not here right now n he will let her know you called. You agree and hang up. A few more days pass - nothing. You call again - she answers this time, but she sounds almost lifeless in her voice. You ask her what is wrong. She says she is just sick. You try to find out more about what's wrong but she kind of circles around the subject and gives vague answers. This concerns you - so you decide to go over there. When you get there, noth of them are there- but she doesn't really look happy like she did before- you can tell she has a "plastic smile" on her face. So when he leaves the house for a bit you finally get her to talk. She tells you he has been telling her he
etc - the tears are falling like rain when he walks back in, and starts yelling at her....
How would you react?
Would you say that is "minor"?
Somehow, I think you would think differently then, right? Whatever you are thinking right now - about how you would feel for your daughter - that is what you should feel for you too
You are important - don't ever forget that
*hugs*