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Originally Posted by hazn
Admittedly I haven't been following this thread closely, but rouge198 made some good points about how victims of narcissistic abuse view their abusers. At the end of the day, whether you have narcissistic traits, or are someone who has been diagnosed with NPD, shouldn't make a difference to the victim. Abuse is abuse, whether the person has a personality disorder or not shouldn't matter. So from that perspective, I agree with rouge198. Regarding the other comments... it doesn't make a difference to me or change how I'd deal with someone who has been diagnosed with a personality disorder... it's simply not my problem, and I'd rather concentrate on building healthy relationships with healthy people.
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I was the subject of significant abuse in my childhood and for a good while following, having been indoctrinated to it within the chaotic Cluster B realm of my family, and in my opinion it makes a huge difference whether it's the result of narcissistic patterns; if not for how you'd deal with the person (although I think that's an unfortunate oversight), then how you deal with yourself, how you evolve from the experience. When you're bullied or manipulated in various ways, and especially in childhood, it leaves a mark on you that makes you easily identifiable as prey for abusers of the same type. Emotional residue. To not deal with the nature of that residue is almost an invitation for similar abuses to happen again.
Perhaps especially so with other narcissists, because they can be charming as all get-out and you will run into them again somewhere.
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